Monday, June 29, 2009

not an ordinary weekend


I was asked to come to LA this past weekend to perform a wedding for some wonderful friends. They had chosen a beautiful spot overlooking the Pacific - the first place that he had ever taken her when she first visited him in California all the way from Kentucky. The beauty of the setting, with the breathtaking scenery and dramatic sunset, was completely overwhelmed by the beauty of the bride and groom, and their obvious and exuberant love for one another.

I was completely humbled by their commitment and sincerity, their trust and faith and joy, their optimism and determination. This is gonna take, for sure. Hell, it's already took.

They'll be having a formal Hindu wedding in Mumbai as soon as they can arrange it, and another shindig in Lexington. So they're willing to tie the knot all over the continent, and on the other side of the world. That's enough commitment for me.

To Mr and Mrs Abhijit Patil! May you always be as happy as we are!

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

oops I did it again

Cut my left hand New Joy Sea salute finger. Badly.

Note to self: do not use sharp knife to open recalcitrant pistachio. Ever. Again.

Saturday, June 13, 2009

orange-colored moroccan salad

I got this recipe years ago from Carlene. It's sweet and tart, and really refreshing. Perhaps I've posted it before, but dammit it's summertime and you need to enjoy this now.

Ingredients:

3 oranges
1 cantaloupe
2 cups shaved and shredded carrots
olive oil
Balsamic vinegar
1 lemon or lemon juice
Dijon mustard
fresh-ground black pepper
fresh mint leaves (optional)

Instructions:

Peel oranges, separate, and cut into bit-sized pieces.

Cut melon in half lengthwise. Using a large spoon, scoop out seeds and discard. Scoop out cantaloupe flesh with a melon baller, or cut into bite-sized pieces.

Toss oranges with cantaloupe and carrots in a large bowl.

Make dressing: in a small bowl mix 1 Tb. olive oil, 2 Tb. vinegar, 3 Tb. Dijon mustard, juice from 1/2 lemon, and black pepper to taste.

Drizzle dressing over salad and toss well. Finely chop and sprinkle mint (if using) over top.



Voila. Hit of the party! Note: I generally use a LOT more dressing than this recipe calls for, and I also add some red wine vinegar to add a bit more zing - as the Balsamic can be sometimes too sweet. Enjoy!

Thursday, June 04, 2009

milld anxiety

I'm not often awake when hobbitt's not feeling well late into the night. He's coming down with another cold, and his cough has been percussive for days. He hasn't called the doctor.

Tonight he's restless and can't sleep. I've chosen, for the time being, to sit up with him. He's sitting at his desk, with his head resting back on his chair, and scraping his foot back and forth on the hardwood floor. I've not observed this before. He seems more or less at peace, and he's not coughing. Maybe he's waiting for the night-time medicines to kick in. I don't know. He's not saying and I'm not really wanting to ask.

We all have our little rituals when we're not feeling up to par. I know I have mine that he's not privy to. In a way I feel like a voyeur tonight, but there's also the notion that we're not so young anymore, and colds can become out of hand. I love the guy, and although I know he's a "leave me alone" kind of patient, I'm his wife. I want to help, soothe, comfort. It's my job.

But I know him, too. Soothe and comfort to him truly means "leave me the hell alone." It's tough. But I can do it.

I'm going to bed now. But I'll keep an ear open. I won't sleep well. And that's okay.

Saturday, May 30, 2009

a gentle surf


The house we had (of the two) was Saturday to Saturday. We had to move out today, into this second house (Sunday to Sunday) and then move out again to go home tomorrow. It's a small sacrifice, I suppose, though I couldn't say of what.

What was sixteen is now down to seven. Regardless of our vows to finish off the liquor (like that could happen, since none of us drinks to excess - honest!) or the food (and we had eight different pizzas tonight with all the leftover fresh foods), we've been undone by the largesse of our time here on the Outer Banks.

Diane made chicken paprikash on Thursday night. Mary and Diane made a breakfast frittata for Friday, and a quiche for Saturday morning. Diane also made a small vat of authentic gumbo for last night, and which we failed to rescue from the cleaning gal who heaved it forthwith upon finding it in the freezer from last night. Lesson learned: do not check out earlier than required.

But thank the gods. There aren't enough stomachs. We were sad. We shrugged. We got on with our leisure. Don't tell Mary.

We're two houses closer to the Atlantic. Although hobbitt and I have the same bedroom (relatively speaking) in this new house, we can hear the surf. And smell it. Forgive me, but I'm going to strap on a Breathe-Right strip and suck it all in tonight, since it will be a long while until I smell the Atlantic Ocean (and for those of you single-coasters, there is a distinct olfactory difference) this closely again.

This was an inexpensive trip, largely because very many people were within close proximity (in the two rental houses), not to mention there's no fishing down here right now, so the rates were cheap. I would do it again in a heartbeat - but with whom, but these wonderful old and new friends? How do relative strangers live in such close quarters for a week without a single bit of frayed nerves?

Hell, I can't stand being around myself for a week without becoming seriously pissed off at least once!

Right. Grant, and John. The ravioli makers, for one thing. The instigators. The choreographers of a dance of good cheer, food, laughter, music, video, games, sunshine, and did I mention food? I love them both. And yeah, Manbird, I want to marry the both of them.

Thursday, May 28, 2009

obx

The wind has been blowing from the southeast all day, and tonight it shrieks through the window screens dryly. The clouds have begun to move across the face of the waxing crescent moon. We find ourselves in Avon, NC, on the Outer Banks. There is nothing to see to the northwest, on the mainland, across Pamlico Sound. It's simply too far. We're way out in the Atlantic.

This is the ocean I know. This is the ocean that has always spoken to my heart. And yet? I haven't been to the ocean, or seen it, since we've arrived. And it's quite all right.

Most of what we're seeing out there are immense egrets, osprey, and various gulls and pipers, brown jellyfish and vast schools of some sort of tiny brown fish. There's also a lovely bunch of well-tanned young men building a spectacular vacation/rental house on the lot next door.

The rule of the week is "leisure points" wherein one gains rank according to time spent idle, napping, sleeping late, drinking before noon on an empty stomach, etc. Yet each of us is willing to sacrifice the leisure points on cooking (though mostly we leave that to Grant and John), or cleaning up (though mostly hobbitt, Mary Ann and Michael have seen to that). Our house is alternately tidy and thoroughly thrashed, but no matter. The food is exquisite (all home-made, all from scratch). The liquor is top shelf (and we've needed a permit to carry the quantities home from the ABC stores, and in our defense, we are more than a dozen adults). The company? Priceless.

Right now Grant is playing his guitar and singing. Mary is accompanying him on the fiddle. The wind is still whistling through the screens. The paprikash that Diane made has been left out, so that we can dip the last of Grant's home-made bread (he's made bread or pizza dough every day we've been here) into the luscious sauce.

I love the feeling of the warm dry wind on my legs. I love the sound as it batters the house, and the sweet treat of fireflies and crickets is icing on the cake. (We have neither at home.)

We're honored to have been invited. Our nature is rather solitary, and we identify ourselves as hermits. This week has been all about the company - alone, we'd have experienced little of the joy that is this place, this gathering, this chemistry - not to mention the food. There is no fear here. There are no pretenses. Grant has made this gathering from his own choices - and we are simply here to enjoy one another.

I would love to learn what Grant knows. I crave the constancy he practices, to hang on to friends and shuffle them together for weeks such as this. My talents are lacking. But I'm a good student.

In the meantime, Grant and Mary play into the night, and we're grateful to hear the sonorous sounds of the fiddle, and the bright guitar strings. We are blessed. All our senses are being sated, and all at once. I'd say more, but the paprikash is calling me.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

our kites

the kites of druid labs from Cathy Carroll on Vimeo.

too much sunshine


It was a long day of sorting through our kites in preparation for our vacation on the Outer Banks. We were blessed with summer-like weather (I say summer-like because summer doesn't really arrive here until July 5th or so) and it was a joy to be outside in short sleeves, though the sunshine gave me a bit of a headache.

hobbitt declared he wanted hot dogs and salads (macaroni and potato) for dinner. It seemed the perfect way to end such a lovely day. Off he went to the grocery store with a simple list: hot dogs, hot dog rolls, potato salad and macaroni salad.

When he came home I took care of putting the groceries away. I noticed he bought Hebrew National knockwurst instead of franks. He had a "d'oh!" moment. Then I noticed he brought home two containers of macaroni salad, and no potato salad. He had a bigger "D'OH!" moment. Finally I asked him where the rolls were, and he just started banging his head against the cabinets.

Saturday, May 09, 2009

accidental dawn

I witnessed a most brilliant, fiery sunrise today, while standing in our backyard. The temperature was quite mild, and there was just enough of a breeze to fan my face with the sweet morning fragrances of spring blossoms.

Mind you, I had no intent to be standing in our backyard, in what passes for a nightgown, with my lily-white legs and feet stuck into my black felted Birks, holding a leash attached to a very, very sick dog. I was grateful no cars were passing out back, though it would have been unlikely at 5 a.m. on a Saturday.

We both woke to the sound of a dog horking. I heard hobbitt get up and figured I could take a bye on this one, until I heard him approach the back door and mutter, "Omigosh!" So it was out of bed for me, on with the nightie and shoes, and out to the living room to clean up the mess that came out of Zach's other end.

For you dog owners out there, please understand that Zach doesn't just hunch and poop, as our very lady-like older dog poops. Oh, no. He's a spinner. He looks like some sort of demented monkey, practically standing on his forelegs all the while pumping his hind legs and quickly circling. The point of this TMI rant is to give a picture of the pattern of fling that I had to deal with.

I love our Bissell Little Green Machine so much that I do truly want to marry it.

When I was finished shampooing near the back door (and I do give props to the pup for being near the door when this happened), hobbitt took the machine to deal with the considerable hork in the bedroom. Zach leaned against me, looking puny and sorry. And he was trembling. And that means only one thing.

So I leashed him up and out the door we went. He was pretty frantic. I'm guessing he was feeling some strong cramping. I turned and saw that bright orange sky just over the ridge to the east and became entranced. The stillness of the morning, the peace and silence except for the sound of the breeze through the Douglas-firs, and the freshness on my face was enchanting. It didn't even matter that Zach was emptying his bowels in the midst of my favorite euphorbias.

It's no secret that I'm a slug-a-bed. Dawn is not a phenomenon with which I'm even vaguely familiar. What a blessing to step out into such a delicious morning! I have no plans to make a habit of this, of course, but I have to admit there was some magic in it.

When hobbitt finished in the bedroom, I climbed back into bed. For a few moments Zach, now calm and well, cuddled against me. Soon hobbitt returned, and shortly after both the dogs were sleeping soundly, Eddie climbed over my head to sit in the open windowsill, and we found ourselves dozing until almost noon.

Monday, May 04, 2009

sweetness in the rain

Tonight we took the dogs to the beach in a steady rain. They hadn't had a mid-day walk, and we can stand getting a little wet for their comfort and health, right? We had planned to just run them with a tennis ball in the play area, and come back home, but the trail was too inviting, and so we walked a bit.

When we arrived at the copse near the point, we were surrounded by some sweet, sweet aroma of blossoms - not the Oregon grape, not the clover, maybe the false Solomon's Seal. We don't know. It might just have been the rich, organic earth out there. We just stood there for a few long moments and inhaled.

We found dozens of Indian paintbrushes and hundreds of chocolate lilies. The wild roses are growing in earnest - as well they should - as the rains will end in about 60 days. In the meantime, the thrifts and beach carrots and vetches are having a ball, and we got to enjoy it all.

By the time we got back to the car (and mind you, this was quite an abbreviated walk for all involved, though Zach got to chase his tennis ball the entire time), we were all soaked to the skin, and the wind was picking up. No stars, no sunset, no delectable sky to ogle. And yet.