The nature of love according to me

I had the good fortune to be able to chat with a dear friend from Nawth Joisey tonight. Excellent fellow, healing from a broken heart. It made me think about my own uneven past in regards to the god Amor, and what I might have learned from the journey.

1. Love isn't supposed to hurt.
1a. Corollary to rule 1. A true love doesn't use hurt against her or his lover.
2. If you have doubts, run.
3. If you don't have doubts, don't manufacture them.
4. Real love demands fearlessness and ownership.
5. I wouldn't have learned any of this without my hobbitt.

This is all facilitated by the simple grade school rule of "Say what you mean, mean what you say, don't say it mean."

It's hard, sometimes, to see anger in my hobbitt, and to know I've done something to provoke it. But it would be a lot harder to ignore it, to walk away from his confusion, than it is to say, simply, "What is this about? How can we fix this?"

Rule # 6. Making up is AWESOME!