Wednesday, May 10, 2006

because it was a wonderful life

The creature who is in charge of Aunt Grace's arrangements and estate is a dick. This was the obit in the local paper.

GRACE L, 92, of LAKEWOOD, died Saturday, May 6, at home. Born in Newark, she lived in Springfield before moving to Lakewood 22 years ago.

She was predeceased by her husband, John L, in 1946. Surviving are a nephew and niece, Edward and Jean L of Point Pleasant; a niece, Joan L of New Providence; a grandnephew, Brian L; a grandniece, Karen S; three grandnieces and a grandnephew, Cathy C, Nancy R, Terry H, and John W; and a sister-in-law, Marie B.

A Funeral Mass will be offered at 10:30 a.m. Thursday at Holy Family Church, Lakewood. Interment will be in Woodland Cemetery, Newark. Donations can be made to the Leisure Village Nurses Association, Buckingham Drive, Lakewood, or a charity of your choice in her name.

As if this woman had no friends, little family and no history, and what is there is wrong. Everybody was pissed. The dick showed just how much she cared about this wonderful woman. As in: not a bit. But we're talking about a woman who meant the world to many, many people. So I tried to do it a little better.

GRACE L, 92, of LAKEWOOD, died Saturday, May 6, at home after a brief illness. Born in Newark to William and Jennie L, she lived in Maplewood, Irvington, and Springfield before moving to Lakewood 22 years ago. She worked as an accountant, traveling all over the US setting up offices and troubleshooting for American Insurance Company and Fireman’s Fund.

She was predeceased by her brothers Edward G. L of Springfield and Jack L of Lakewood. She was also predeceased by her husband, John L, in 1946, yet remained an integral part of the L family for the next 60 years. Above all else she enjoyed traveling the world and visited Europe twelve times. She enjoyed reading, playing cards, and visiting with her many long-time and dear friends. She was a member of the Italian American Club and Hear We Are Club at Leisure Village. She volunteered at Kimball Hospital for many years, as well as at the local library.

Mrs. L enjoyed dining out with family and friends and reveled in sharing stories of her traveling adventures. Her social calendar was always full and her company was a delight to her family and many life-long friends. Though she never drove a car, she had no problems getting out and about to go shopping or visiting, or to dine with friends or volunteer. Her greatest joy was to be "on the go."

Surviving are a nephew, Edward V. L of Point Pleasant; sister-in-law Marie B of Lakewood; nieces Joan L (the dick), Martha C, Terry H, Cathy C and Nancy W; nephews Donald K, Paul M, Thomas B, Dennis B and John W; eight grand-nieces and grand-nephews; two great-grand-nieces, one great-grand-nephew, and a dozen god-children.

The family wishes to express their deep gratitude to Jean L, for selflessly providing companionship and loving care in Mrs. L's last months.

Mrs. L was laid to rest with her beloved husband in Woodland Cemetery, Newark. The family requests memorial donations to the OLV Foundation, 19 Buckingham Drive, Lakewood, which provides both emergency and routine nursing services to residents of Original Leisure Village.

It'll be in Friday's paper. I hope the dick sees it. Sometimes it's good that people don't participate in the digital world, because I can vent my spleen without fear of their being disabused of their own dickhood.

4 Comments:

At 6:03 PM, header5 said...

I really like yours better. It seems to me that so many obits have no insight into who the person was and what that person meant to so many people. I am glad you decided to write your own, personal version. For god's sake, she wasn't just born, had a family and died. She was 92 and lived a long life and was so much to others as I can tell by your posts.

 
At 8:08 PM, Triskele said...

good for you!

 
At 6:10 AM, Anonymous said...

Just in case the dick does not read it send her a copy.Love you.AC

 
At 9:12 AM, edieraye said...

I am SO glad that you are going to post yours in the newspapers. It will mean a great deal to Aunt Grace's many loved ones.

Why oh why are some people so MEAN? When A's dad died, the horrible woman who wrote the obit didn't even mention two of his daughters (one had passed away, the other adopted) or his step-siblings that he literally grew up with. Even though everyone knew she was horrid - it still hurt when the obit came out.

I am glad that you are remedying this situation. You ROCK!

 

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