clarification
I would like to offer a little clarification to some of my readers, regarding hobbitt's marriage proposals.
He began proposing to me a week after we started dating. I had been long separated from my mistake spouse, but we hadn't finalized it because there was no immediate need, and it cost me nothing to keep Craige on my health insurance. basically. We didn't want to spend money on a lawyer, because neither of us had any.
That early on, I was pretty certain it was all a rebound relationship with hobbitt, but to be honest, I didn't even care. It was pretty special and I wasn't about to cut it short. And he proposed to me pretty much on a daily basis. I never answered, because - well, because I couldn't. The most I would say was "Yeah, bigamy's in this year." I was pretty certain that I didn't want to try the marriage thing again, and I was very comfortable, eventually, with the idea that I was going to spend the rest of my life with hobbitt anyway.
So it was rather odd that on December 28th 1989, after 10 solid weeks of marriage proposals, and an hour after all the proper papers had been filed, that he didn't think to ask me the question that I could finally answer. And I don't know what I answered when he finally did ask. Not that it mattered. By that time our relationship was pretty much a force of nature.
The first time he asked me - actually, it was more like a command ("Marry me.") - it was on the front porch of the ornate Victorian home where his 3rd floor bachelor digs were. The last time it was in a seldom-used stairwell at ADR in Princeton.
So now tell me: where did you pop - or answer - the question?
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I first proposed on my knees as you were sitting on the couch. That's my story. But it was the same evening. Large amounts of Golden Margaritas at the local Mexican restaraunt might have loosened my inhibitions, but I was serious then, and serious for the 10 weeks afterward.
Then you said yes, and we got a whole bunch less serious. Getting RIF'd two months later and playing at being retired for another two months helped, but I like being not-serious with you.
The first time I proposed to the man I was to marry, it was on the phone, because we were on different continents.
The seocnd time I proposed to the man I plan to marry, it was via IM, because we were on different continents.
Boy. That's really, really sad, isn't it?
Dammit. I hate it when I don't catch my typos.
And the way I phrased all that was weird. Here's the upshot: two different men. Two different proposals. Neither of them done face-to-face.
I think Ali talks too much. ;)
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okay, let's try this again:
I still prefer to think of you as a fellow hussy. But, gosh, that hobbitt is a romantic boy, isn't he? Nice going and congrats on the longevity.
PS--my brother likes to refer to my first (mistake) marriage as "your starter marriage." My mistake husband was a nice guy, but not the one. I jumped the gun. Oh well, I eventually figured it out.
~ell
PS--GITB proposed to me on the beach at sunset after I accidentally popped him in the eye. Long story. But during the actual proposal he was on his knee and it looked like he was crying but really his eyes were watering because of the minor eye injury. He gave me his grandmother's ring (a cool old sapphire in an ancient setting)and tourists stopped and watched and took pictures. Which was weird because they didn't say they would mail us the pics...
...i think it's polyandry when a woman has more than one husband, and bygamy when a man has more than one wife...but i could be wrong.
i was proposed to directly outside of the wild pair shoe store in a crowded mall on a saturday afternoon.
that was my ex husband's idea of romance.
Heh. Yeah. Proposal occurred in hiccup's '90 Subaru Loyale station wagon while parked on a sidestreet.
I had toyed with the idea of proposing while in McDonald's drive-thru lane. Ahh, redneck love.
-Eric AKA ptooey
well....i think your entire relationship from proposal to now is the most romantic i've ever known...
and i think ali's is romantic too.
i also had a starter marriage/mistake marriage. jumped the gun. proposal was the 2nd day i knew him. official proposal was in his basement, with tealite candles in a circle around us. cheesy, but eh....
second one - with my now fiance, and soulmate - was sitting in his living room, watching a redsox game, discussing why we should get married. the "official" proposal was done in cape cod in front of his entire family at thanksgiving dinner last year. videotaped. ugh! romantic still....
but we aspire to you and hobbitt!
I was proposed to -- the first time by my current husband -- on the phone, because we were on two different continents. (See Ali? It's not just you!)
We were fighting about health insurance. He said "This wouldn't be a problem, if we were married!" I said "Fine! Then let's just run right out and get married!" He said, "Fine! Then get your ass home and marry me!" And I said "Fine!" And he said "Fine!" And I said "Get out your damned planner then, so we can figure out when the hell we're going to do this!!"
The second time he proposed to me, it was on his knees, with three Italian waiters singing behind him. Whatta guy. ;)
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